Love is one of the most precious and treasured feelings in one's life. I feel love and
affection should be used carefully and under strong self-control. There are two ways of
falling in love. The first way, which is mostly admired, is by way of chance. An example
of chance is as follows: a man and women are introduced to one another and make eye
contact. Then a certain feeling bonds the two, forming love, which eventually will lead to
an everlasting marriage. The other way to fall in love is by choice. It could be either
the parent's choice or one of the couple's choices. I feel that love by way of chance has
a higher percentage of a lasting marriage than does love by choice.
Love that occurs by chance is usually not because she or he is pretty or smart, rather,
it's a link of some sort, like personalities or characteristics in common. Some people
might not like a stupid, fat, or repulsive looking mate, but I feel it shouldn't depend on
physical appearances. Affection should be based on what's in the heart and possibly the
brain. The way I see it falling in love by way of chance is the most beautiful feeling in
the world.
Love by choice, especially not yours, is a horrible way to live a life. It's hard for
the one who didn't have the choice. If one has to pick their husband or wife it should not
depend on their money status or their popularity, it should be a careful decision that
will make one happy for the rest of their life. A good example that my classmates and I
could relate to, is the Hasidic world. Daughters and sons are usually married off by their
parents through a deal at the ages of twelve and thirteen. They grow up knowing whom
they're going to marry for seven or eight years having no say in the matter. They have to
learn to love their mate and I feel it's a miserable way to marry someone and feel for
that person.
I think that love by way of chance is a far more better way to love someone than by way
of choice. I feel that love is the most beautiful feeling and that everyone should have a
chance to have a feeling of true love. I also advise that before one is to marry, they
should make sure it's true love so they could have an eternal marriage.
